Monday, October 3, 2011

How I Spent my 31st Birthday

1-6.) The first thing we did was stop at Panera bread and pick up a bakers dozen of bagels. Six assorted flavors of regular bagels, and 7 of the ribbon shaped bagels they are doing in the month of October for breast cancer awareness. We took the six assorted bagels to a fire station down the road and thanked them for their service to the community.

7 & 8.) Next we went to Wal Mart and picked up two $10 gift cards to take up to the hospital to give to moms who'd delivered babies today... my birthday

here's where the story gets frustrating. Before we went and got the gift cards, I called Cox Hospital to make sure it'd be ok for us to do the gift card idea. They gave me the run around transferring me to several different people who'd all put me on hold after hearing what I wanted to do and then transfer me to someone else, and in the end straight up just told me that I couldn't do it for security reasons. No visitors are allowed in the maternity ward there unless the visitors know the patients first and last name. I was trying to explain to them that I didn't know their names because I was trying to do a kindness to strangers (duh!) and even asked if it'd be ok to do if they told the parents of the newborn what I wanted to do and got their ok and still they said no. I sat in the car upset that while I understood their reasons, it's sad that you can't do something random and kind for strangers anymore. Then, I decided to call St. John's and after speaking to just one person they said that they loved the idea and told me who to talk to when I got there. So we went to Wal Mart, got the gift cards and off to the hospital we went.

When we got there we had to wait for a little while, while the nurse who was going to take us to patients rooms finished up deliverying a baby. Turns out... it was a busy birthday at St. John's today on labor and delivery! :)  While we were waiting, we struck up conversation with the gals at the desk and found out that one is from the town right next to ours. small world! Usually people in the city haven't heard of our small town. So the nurse finished up and came out to meet us (everyone up there had heard about us coming and was calling me "random acts of kindness girl") and told us that it's her birthday today too! The second new mom she took me to meet, it had been her birthday yesterday, she had a baby today... AND, today was her and her husband's anniversary!!! She shook my hand, thanked me, and told me she'd never forget that I'd been there and done that on the day her baby was born. That stuck with me. She had a baby boy... Henry... and this will always be something she'll include when she tells Henry the story of the day he was born. I love that.

9.) On our way home we stopped at a gas station to use the restroom and get fountain sodas. There was another woman there getting a soda and we paid for hers. She didn't know we paid for hers...

10.) While we were at the gas station I bought two king sized Reeses Peanut Butter Cups because I'd called the nursing home close to us and found out that a man there was also celebrating his birthday today and he loves chocolate. Peanut Butter Cups in particular. I'm not sure that he was in his right mind enough to understand why I was there giving him chocolate... but I like to think I brightened his day when otherwise he'd have been lonely on his birthday.

11.) I taped money to a newpaper stand with a note to please enjoy the act of kindness

12 & 13.) I taped money to a soda machine on my way into wal mart tonight with a note to please enjoy the act of kindness. On the way out of wal mart I looked at the soda machine and noticed that the change was gone, so I taped more money and another note up.

14.) at Wal Mart, I bought a bag of White Chocolate Candy Corn M&M's for to give to my in-laws

15 & 16.) I took breast cancer awareness ribbon bagels to two women in town who I thought would love them.

and if you can count it...

17.) I shared my birthday dessert at HuHot with Jason today :)

I started the day thinking I'd do 31 acts of kindness but I ran out of time because I had to deal with two kids (our 5 year old running a fever and our 16 year old throwing up at school).

The point of this day/blog was not to brag on myself. I don't need pats on the back. Blessing others today was the best gift I could have gotten. Making other people happy makes me happy. It made me sad several times today though when people gave me funny looks for wanting to do something nice. It should be the norm... not the oddity.

I might make this a birthday tradition. Who knows? at least the part of going to the hospital and nursing home and visiting with people born on the same day as me. I love birthdays!


  1. Happy Birthday! I loved the hospital story!

  2. It's not a random act of kindness if you set out to plan them! Do things without telling the whole blog world about them, then it might mean that you actually did these acts for the right reasons, not for recognition!

    1. years later, I'm getting ready to post something related and came back to read this post and your comment... but the thing is... never once did I refer to my acts of kindness as "random" They were very much intentional.

  3. Hello, thanks for sharing your story ... I am planning to spend my next birthday doing acts of kindness (some random and some intentional)and came across your blog while research. You have given me some ideas I had not thought of which I think are great! = )


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